Shame on you for trying to shame me

I will not be shamed for who I am.

I have not done anything wrong against you, your race, your religion, or your being.

You cannot shame me for who I am.

The Merriam Webster Online Dictionary defines shame as:

“a feeling of guilt, regret, or sadness that you have because you know you have done something wrong.”[1]

The Black Lives Matter movement as well as many other groups, the media, and individuals, all say I should be ashamed for being white, and that I have white privilege.  I am told that I do not understand their plight, their conditions, or the blatant racism they suffer at the hands of modern society.


I may not know or understand your particular plight but do not begin to tell me I should be ashamed because I don’t.  You have no idea what I have been through in my life, the battles I have simply to provide for my family, or the hell I have seen while working on the ambulance all for all those years.

But let’s move away from the emotional crap and look at statistics.

One of the main complaints of the Black Lives Matter crown is the number of unarmed blacks killed by white police officers.  If you pay attention to their rhetoric you will be led to believe that white police officers kill young black men on an hourly basis.  These “official murders” are happening all the time, but really, how often does it happen.

Looking at the FBI’s Crime in the United States statistics for 2014 it shows that there were 3,021 whites murdered versus 2,451 blacks.  Of the whites murdered 2,488 were murdered by whites, 446 murdered by blacks, and 87 murdered by other races.  Among the blacks murdered there were 187 murdered by whites, 2, 205 murdered by blacks, and 59 murdered by other races.[2]

So according to the stats, in 2014 there were 570 more white killed than blacks, 82.3% of the murders of whites were done by whites while 14.7% of the white murders were done by blacks.

Conversely, of the 2,451 blacks murdered, 7.6% were murdered by whites while 89.9% were murdered by blacks.

So there are more whites being murdered than blacks, and to top it off, whites are twice as likely to be killed by blacks as blacks being killed by whites.  Almost 90% of blacks were killed by their own race.

Now let’s look at the number of folks killed by law enforcement.  Unfortunately the data does not separate the information into race, but we can use the other data above to come up with a good determination.

In 2014 there were 442 folks killed nationwide by law enforcement[3].  There were 13,897 total murders, including the ones by law enforcement, in 2014[4].  That means only 3% of all killings were carried out by law enforcement.  Now let’s assume further that all of the shootings were performed by white police officers.  That means that of the 442 murders, 364 of the folks killed were white while 78 of them were black.

Numbers folks, numbers.

Let’s look at some data for Texas since the Justice Department and the rest of America seems to think we are very racist down here.

According to, a website that uses public input of deaths due to police encounters, supported by news stories, to document the number of people killed by the police.  For Texas, in 2014 there were 102 shootings by police officers resulting in the death of the victim.  Of those 102 shootings, 45 were European-American/White (44%), 28 were Hispanic/Latino (27%), 21 were African American/Black (21%), one was Asian (< 1%), and seven were unknown race (7%)[5].

In the above sampling of data, you are more than twice as likely to be shot and killed by law enforcement if you are white than if you are black.  Where is the whole “cops are killing black kids because they are black” thing?  It looks like you are in more danger if you are white than if you are black.

If black lives matter, then the black community should start making them matter in the stead of killing each other off. It is not the police officers killing all the black children out there, it is the black children.

Now, back to the emotional crap.

Again, you cannot shame me for being white.  Blacks want to move beyond race and yet a small, but very loud part of them keep dragging it into the discussion.  They claim “white privilege,” and that I benefit from “white supremacy” in a racialized society.  Once again I call bullshit!

I work very hard to provide for my family, and because of my race, not my economic circumstances, but because of my race I am not able to receive any assistance from government entities.  The Texas Temporary Assistance office looked at my finances and actually commented, “How do you survive on that?”  But because I am married and have a mortgage rather than paying rent, work my ass off for 70-80 hours per week, and am not a minority, I do not qualify for assistance.

That was the case manager’s words, not my imagination.

How is that white privilege?  How is that white supremacy?

And for those blacks who do rise above the rabble, they are often called Uncle Toms or Oreos because they refuse to let their circumstances or race dictate their lives.

The Declaration of Independence states, “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”[6]  All men are created equal, but there is no guarantee by “their Creator” or by the government they are to remain equal.  We are all born exactly the same way, without regard to race, but it I up to us to work diligently to either remain equal or to move ahead of the crowd.  Hard work and dedication to your future is the only way this can happen.

[1] Merriam Webster Online Dictionary, “Shame – Definition of shame by Merriam-Webster”, ( [accessed 25 Oct 2015])

[2] The Federal Bureau of Investigation, “FBI – Expanded Homicide Data Table 6,” online database, ( [accessed 25 Oct 2015])

[3] The Federal Bureau of Investigation, “FBI – Expanded Homicide Data Table 14,” online database, ( [accessed 10 Nov 2015]). Unfortunately the FBI does not list the race, age, or sex of the victim.

[4] The Federal Bureau of Investigation, “FBI – Expanded Homicide Data Table 3,” online database, ( [accessed 10 Nov 2015]).

[5] Fatal Encounters, “Database & Last Name Check,” online database ( [accessed 10 Nov 2015]). Chose Texas with all counties form the drop down list.

[6] United States Government, National Archives, “The Declaration of Independence.” ( [accessed 10 Nov 2015])